A COUPLE'S BLOG
(a warning to the squirmish)
(a warning to the squirmish)
One of the reasons that we enjoy about being together is how well and how openly we can describe our experiences to each other, how they made us feel and what we did or what we would have done. Part of our conversations are the things we realized through the years. As we mark the few weeks that we are both of the same age, we found it apt to put together the 30 things we learned in 30 years. These conversations keep us grounded and remind us of the persons and leaders we want to be.
1. Have a mental list of what you value. As you age you will be exposed to situations that challenge what you value and will be forced to decide against it so it’s important that when the time comes your values are intact.
2. You have the ability to change. The ability to be the best version of yourself is not time bound and is not defined by stereotypes or who you were in not so distant past.
3. Find a cause. You will find a cause you will support wholeheartedly and by this time you can do something more concretely about it.
4. You’ll lose friends along the way. You’ve said your last goodbyes without really knowing it and that’s okay because you will keep the ones worth keeping.
5. Fitting-in is less important. You will be self-aware that you will get over the consciousness to fit in and realize that you don’t need to please everyone.
6. Time for family is limited. You acknowledge that everyone in the family grow to be their own individuals and you may not stand each other for more than 3 days and that’s perfectly fine.
7. Have at least 2 different jobs. Having more than one job by this time allows you to compare experiences, practice and be exposed to different people and problems.
8. But don’t compare. Don’t compare yourself, your career and your pace with your friends and colleagues. You achieve your happiness at your own time.
9. Horizontal movement is still movement. It’s okay to move horizontally with your career path and if you can afford it, even downward if it gives you the push to do more.
10. Look beyond the school. By the time you are hiring, look for the character, drive, willingness to learn and the level of training required form you. Remember that you are hiring based on potential.
11. Bosses weren’t always wrong. As one of the decision makers, you start to understand that certain shifts in the company happen for reasons that do not necessarily need to be explained or you don’t need to know.
12. Learning doesn’t stop. You have to look for more and higher learning. You need to read, socialize, speak and listen because your work can only give you so much.
13. Others have different values. Your values, discipline and principles are not the same as others so don’t expect that they will use the same yardstick as yours all the time.
14. Be part of the solution. At this age, it is no longer enough that you see the faults and complain about them, you should be mature enough and in the position to find the solutions and do something about them.
15. Just because it’s always been there, it doesn’t make it right. If their reason is always “that’s how it’s always been done”, it should still not cloud your judgement. You can still change things and you have to find other ways to do it.
16. Body becomes stubborn. You have to find time to exercise and have at least basic physical activity or your body will enhance its width. You will always find excuses but you need to prioritize this.
17. Energy is finite. You start to complain about getting tired too early but eventually you will be forced to choose activities and manage them around your energy
18. Dinners will be brunch. Because your energy is limited, you will socialize while the sun is out and during the odd chances you are out at night, the number of bottles you can drink become less and less or turned to wine.
19. Appreciate things made from scratch. You have better appreciation of things that home-cooked, ground coffee, organic food, fresh juice, handcrafted beer, infused water, clothes that actually fit… because you now understand the value of what you buy to you.
20. Doing new things make life exciting. Every year, you look forward to new resolutions but you don’t need to be obsessed about them because when you fail, you will fail hard. Instead, find temporary hobbies that will excite you.
21. 30 is an intersection. You are no longer the youngest in a meeting, you are also not yet the oldest.
22. Wardrobe will change. When you’re out you want to dress as if you’re young, but when you’re at work you dress old.
23. Love your music. You will find that new music is not as good as “back in the day” and you can say with all certainty that the best ones came from the 80’s and 90’s.
24. Money will come. Withdrawing from your payroll ATM will eventually be rewarding but the decisions you have to make to get to that point will be difficult, and in some cases stressful.
25. Live within your means. Don’t spend what you don’t have, not only will you drown in debt but it will also give you a false sense of where you are in life.
26. Discover. Traveling is a fantastic way to take a break from the daily grind. This is a good age to explore because you have enough extra money for it and just enough energy to do it.
27. Play doesn’t stop at 30. You will still yearn for games, fun and toys.
28. Special occasions mark your aging. You will be amazed about the events you get invited to – birthdays, debuts, weddings, baptisms.
29. Being vulnerable is vital. Opening up to others and showing your weaknesses from time to time is important for you to grow and learn.
30. Age is ripe for love. This is the best time to find your one true love. You will be matured enough, more sure of yourself this time and you should be able to find the same maturity with some of the people that you will meet along the way